First, you should confirm the pregnancy and have an honest conversation with her about the situation. If there is any doubt about the pregnancy, she can take a pregnancy test and, where necessary, see a medical professional for proper confirmation.
If you believe the pregnancy is yours and you want to keep the child, calmly explain your position to her. Let her know that you are prepared to take responsibility for the pregnancy and the child, rather than simply asking her to continue the pregnancy without offering any support.
You may also discuss your willingness to marry her if that is genuinely what you want and you are certain that the relationship is suitable for marriage. However, do not make promises simply to persuade her to change her decision. Any assurance you give should be something you are genuinely prepared to honour.
It is also important to understand that you should not threaten, intimidate, force, or physically restrain her. Telling her that you will call the police if she does not do what you want is not an appropriate way to resolve the matter.
Nigerian law places restrictions on abortion, but the exact legal position depends on the circumstances and the law applicable in the particular part of Nigeria. The Criminal Code and Penal Code contain provisions concerning unlawful termination of pregnancy, while certain circumstances, including situations involving saving the life of the pregnant woman, are treated differently.
Therefore, it is not correct to simply tell someone that every abortion automatically carries a 14-year prison sentence.
If you strongly believe that an unlawful act is about to take place, the appropriate step is to speak to a qualified Nigerian lawyer who can consider the specific facts and advise you on your legal rights and options.
Most importantly, approach the matter calmly. If your concern is that you do not want to lose a pregnancy that you believe is your child, focus first on communication, responsibility, medical advice, and proper legal guidance rather than threats or confrontation.
