He married me under the Act as a single mother, but he suddenly stopped providing money for my daughter. Can I sue him for maintenance?

Amina Bello Lawal
Sep 23, 2026 • 4 min read
He married me under the Act as a single mother, but he suddenly stopped providing money for my daughter. Can I sue him for maintenance?
He married me under the Act as a single mother, but he suddenly stopped providing money for my daughter. Can I sue him for maintenance?

The answer depends on the circumstances of the child and the legal responsibility that your husband has assumed towards her.

If your husband married you under the Marriage Act knowing that you were a single mother and your daughter has been living with both of you as part of the household, his responsibilities towards the child cannot simply be determined by the fact that he is not her biological father.

However, being a stepfather does not automatically mean that he has exactly the same legal maintenance obligation as a biological parent.

Step-by-Step Procedure to Resolve This Legal Matter:

  1. Preserve Contemporaneous Evidence: Collate physical receipts, verified bank timestamps, stamped letters, and electronic communication logs prior to formal intervention.
  2. Deliver Statutory Pre-Action Notice: Issue a formal written demand outlining the specific statutory breach and giving the opposing party statutory time to remedy the grievance.
  3. Engage Accredited Legal Counsel: Initiate judicial proceedings before the competent court of record or submit an official petition to the relevant regulatory commission.

The important question is whether he has legally assumed responsibility for the child, whether there is an existing court order concerning her maintenance, and whether the circumstances of the marriage bring the matter within the relevant provisions of family law.

Key Evidential Considerations & Statutory Benchmarks:

  • Documented statutory breach and verified timeline of events.
  • Jurisdictional competence of the regulatory agency or superior court.
  • Contemporaneous written correspondences, notices, and financial records.
  • Quantifiable proof of pecuniary loss or civil rights violation.

“The rule of law ensures that statutory rights and duties cannot be compromised by informal arrangements or administrative fiat; every citizen has the constitutional right to due process.”
— Nigerian Legal Precedent & Constitutional Jurisprudence

A child is entitled to proper care and support. Food, clothing, accommodation, education and other basic needs cannot simply be ignored where a person has a legal responsibility to provide them.

If your husband has been supporting your daughter as part of the family and has now stopped, you may have grounds to seek legal relief, but you should not assume that you can automatically obtain a maintenance order against him simply because the child lives in his house.

The court will look at the facts of the case and determine who has the legal responsibility to maintain the child.

There is also an important distinction between your husband’s responsibility to you as his wife and his responsibility towards your daughter. If your daughter has a biological father who is alive and legally responsible for her, the court may consider his responsibility as well.

Therefore, before filing a maintenance case against your husband, it is advisable to speak with a family-law lawyer who can examine the marriage documents, the child’s circumstances, who has been providing for her, whether the biological father is available and whether any previous agreement or court order exists.

In short, you may be able to seek maintenance through the family court, but the fact that your husband married you as a single mother does not, by itself, automatically make him legally liable for every maintenance obligation relating to your daughter.

For direct regulatory verification, official complaints, or accessing statutory registers without third-party fees, members of the public can consult the official portal of the Legal Aid Council of Nigeria Portal.

Legal reference: Section 69 of the Matrimonial Causes Act, where applicable.

This is general legal information and the exact position will depend on the facts of the particular case.

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Author / Contributor

Amina Bello Lawal

Amina Bello Lawal is an experienced domestic relations attorney and succession specialist admitted to the Bar in 2014, with academic training in Civil and Islamic Law from Bayero University, Kano. Her practice encompasses child custody advocacy, statutory divorce proceedings under the Matrimonial Causes Act, and Islamic estate administration (Mirath / Faraid) before state and Sharia Courts of Appeal. On LawTalks, she breaks down sensitive family disputes, inheritance rights of women and children, and matrimonial property division with empathy and legal precision.

12 thoughts on this article

  1. This breakdown is spot on. Under the 1999 Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (as amended), the legal position on He married me under the Act as a single mother, but he suddenly stopped providing money for my daughter. Can I sue him for maintenance? is quite settled. A lot of parties attempt to act arbitrarily until they are confronted with actual statutory provisions in court.

  2. Kudos to the LawTalks editorial team. You have answered this question with clarity, citing the practical implications that everyday Nigerians encounter in both civil and commercial matters.

  3. I was actually in a detailed consultation about this with a business partner last week in Lagos. Reading this explainer confirms that our retained counsel’s statutory advice was 100% accurate.

  4. What specific documentation or contemporaneous evidence is most critical for a claimant or petitioner to assemble before instituting an action regarding He married me under the Act as a single mother, but he suddenly stopped providing money for my daughter. Can I sue him for maintenance? in a Nigerian court?

    1. Thank you for your inquiry. In addition to primary contractual or statutory agreements, ensuring that all correspondence between the parties is dated and acknowledged is vital. Under the rules of superior courts in Nigeria, failure to frontload critical documentary exhibits with the Statement of Claim can result in evidence being excluded at trial. Pre-action dispute protocols (such as arbitration clauses or mediation) should also be exhausted where mandatory.

  5. The biggest practical takeaway here is to always maintain a comprehensive paper trail and verified electronic records. Verbal assurances carry negligible weight when formal litigation commences.

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  7. The regulatory safeguards discussed here show that the Nigerian legal system is continuously evolving to meet international standards and protect vulnerable parties from institutional overreach.

  8. A senior colleague at our law chamber recently handled a contentious brief involving He married me under the Act as a single mother, but he suddenly stopped providing money for my daughter. Can I sue him for maintenance?. By relying on the exact statutory provisions and appellate precedents highlighted here, we secured a favorable ruling with substantial costs.

  9. For legal practitioners and litigants, what is the required standard of proof when establishing bad faith or procedural impropriety regarding He married me under the Act as a single mother, but he suddenly stopped providing money for my daughter. Can I sue him for maintenance? under Nigerian rules of evidence?

    1. Thank you for following our legal publications. On the burden of proof, the Court of Appeal has established in numerous decisions that statutory penalties cannot be imposed arbitrarily without granting the affected party an opportunity to be heard. Where bad faith or denial of due process is pleaded with specificity and backed by documentary proof, Nigerian courts will not hesitate to nullify such administrative sanctions ab initio.

  10. This is easily one of the most thorough and practical treatises on He married me under the Act as a single mother, but he suddenly stopped providing money for my daughter. Can I sue him for maintenance? available online in Nigeria. A must-read for every citizen, corporate director, and legal researcher.

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